The source of success begins with how successful you perceive yourself to be in the present. After decades of research on the mental strength that creates success, American psychologist Scott Mautz said: "The first step to achieving success is to appreciate the success you already have."
For parents, the question "have I raised my child successfully?" cannot be answered simply by how much income my child has, what position he has, or what he has achieved...
It’s not wrong to judge success by those criteria, but according to Scott Mautz, the definition of success is much bigger than that. Success in parenting also lies in how your child lives and who he or she chooses to become.
When thinking about success in a broad sense, a successful individual in life requires many qualities that show that they have a strong inner spirit. The true measure of an individual's success requires qualitative assessments, in addition to quantitative assessments.
According to Mr. Mautz, if a parent can answer "yes" to the six questions below, they can be confident that they have raised their child successfully.
Do you follow good values?
The little things you do every day help define who you are. The little impressions you make every day will, in the long run, form big opinions that follow you. The question is: Are you living each day according to the good values you set?
For example, do you value being kind to those around you? Do you consistently maintain that kindness, even when situations become difficult?
The fact that you persist in living according to the values that you respect shows that you live a focused and disciplined life. Both of these things will help you achieve success. Living a focused, disciplined life with the good values that you uphold is not easy. If you can do that, you are on the road to success.
Success in raising children also depends on how your children live and what kind of person they choose to become (Illustration: iStock).
Do you make an effort to improve yourself?
We all need to make an effort in our lives, trying to fulfill our responsibilities and obligations in school, work and life. In the process, we sometimes get confused, stuck in habits that no longer serve us well. Greater success will come if we recognize and correct the things that no longer work.
Being able to overcome your own inertia and the power of habit to improve yourself is a sign to recognize a successful person. If you know how to set goals for yourself, know how to make efforts to achieve those goals, and can even change yourself to serve the set goals, then you have the qualities of a successful person.
Do you appreciate what you have?
We can't have everything we want, knowing how to appreciate what we have helps us feel happier and more satisfied in life. In general, people easily fall into the psychological trap of not knowing enough. Knowing how to appreciate what you have, what you have achieved, is a psychological manifestation of a successful person.
Do you have a mature mindset?
In the process of trying to achieve your goals, there will be times when you make mistakes and experience setbacks. How will you react then? Are you easily discouraged?
You have a mature mindset when you accept your own mistakes and setbacks, considering them as completely inevitable. Finally, you know how to fix and improve the situation, learn from mistakes and flexibly adapt on the journey of striving to achieve your goals.
Being able to overcome one's own inertia and the power of habit to improve oneself is a sign to recognize a successful person (Illustration: iStock).
Are you making an effort to prepare for the opportunity?
Successful people love the process of their efforts, because through it, they improve themselves and progress. They not only appreciate the results, but also appreciate the process.
Sometimes the process of trying is difficult and frustrating, but if you are still patient with each small task, that is a good sign. It is the doing of each small task well that helps you achieve the big goal you are aiming for.
American psychologist Scott Mautz gives an example of himself as a speaker specializing in the topic of inner strength. Many people who listened to his speeches said that they also wanted to become speakers and wanted to be paid a lot of money for their speeches.
What they don’t know, though, is that Mr. Mautz has spent decades studying psychology to discover the valuable content that makes his audience feel worth paying to listen to. In addition, he has had to practice a lot to develop his speaking skills. The preparation process is tiring, challenging, and requires a huge investment of time, energy, effort, and money.
It is the careful preparation of every little thing that is the best way for an individual to be ready to seize the opportunity when it arises. In fact, luck often only comes to those who are well prepared.
Do you know what you want?
In life, it is easy to fall into the psychological trap of wanting what others want and then wanting the same thing. Many people feel like failures simply because they base their definition of success and happiness on the concept of others or the thinking of the majority. It is essential that we have our own definition of success and happiness.
If your child knows exactly what he wants at each stage, is happy with his progress and knows how to persevere, then he has succeeded in building the mindset of a successful person.
According to CNBC
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